Guest blog entry written by Cliff Michaels, Author of “The 4 Essentials of Entrepreneurial
Thinking”
Friends and I recently discussed social media nirvana at a birthday party. Main topic > All things being equal, who uses social media more effectively; men or women?
Members of our little soirée included 10 girls and 10 guys, ages 21 to 39. We had students, executives, artists, and athletes. There were no-tech and high-tech peers alike. Single, married, and parents were accounted for. Fair to say it was a diverse group.
Some were tech-haters and others were full-time social-media mavens. But everyone, in some fashion or another, used all three major tools (Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter). After hours of debate, we also realized that everyone used social media for one of four objectives:
1.) We want to SELL something (product, service, idea)
2.) We want to SHARE content (news, music, photos, information, entertainment)
3.) We want to BUILD RELATIONSHIPS (friends, partners, clients)
4.) We want to COMMUNICATE something (humor, causes, knowledge)
Sell. Share. Communicate. Build relationships. Since selling and sharing are just forms of communication, it really boils down to two things: Communication and Relationships.
Soon enough, and almost unanimously, our group conceded that women were superior at the two skills needed for social media acumen (communication and relationship building). And although a late-night survey of 20 people at a party hardly serves as a global social study, we men were willing to concede 10 points across the board …
Top 10 Reasons Women are Better than Men at Social Media?
1. Emotional Intelligence> Women tend to be more self-ware and self-disciplined about their choice of words, therefore communicate better to a broader audience.
2. Social Intelligence> Women tend to empathize, get along, and read people better than men.
3. Listening> Women tend to listen better than men.
4. Open and honest communication> Women tend to share their feelings more than men which helps build trust in relationships
5. Humility> Women will admit when they’re wrong or share what they don’t know sooner than men. Men will drive around for hours before they ask for directions.
6. Commitment>The running joke in many relationships is that men have a more difficult time with commitment. If that’s true, women have a leg up on social media relations.
7. Curiosity> Women will often ask far more questions to learn about people. As a social skill, there’s no greater relationship-builder than showing genuine interest in someone before talking about oneself.
8. Diplomacy>The rule in social media is to share ideas and resources. While women are just as competitive as men, they tend to be more diplomatic in terms of sharing before selling.
9. Long-Term Thinking>Women are willing to put in more time to build relationships that last. Men prefer instant gratification.
10.Multi-Tasking >Enough said.
Final Thoughts
Naturally, there are exceptions to every rule. I know a few guys who can multi-task and a few girls who don’t communicate well. So be humble, honest, and authentic. As a famous President once said, there’s a “Tweetable” moment here.


















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